Ok, I haven't posted in a while because I haven't known how to say what I'm about to say.
We are almost sure that I'm moving in with him. The last piece of the puzzle is going to be telling my parents. It is a necessary evil as I live in the same town as they do AND they are my landlords.
Any advice?
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This is me, rambling about whatever I'm feeling and trying to make sense of life. Take it or leave it.
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"We are almost sure..." sounds like you are having doubts, and I'm sure you are. I'm pretty sure it's a faith/obedience conflict and you're right to be having it. Having never lived in the same state as Scott until we got married, I am not a good one to give advice about moving in together. But I feel I have to ask you this: once you move in together, how are you going to keep your line from being crossed? You know what your Handbook says. You know that obedience leads to blessings. My word of caution is that you remember how bad you felt after things ended with Gary. It will be worse if things end badly with Marc and you're living with him. And it will not just affect the two of you. It will in some aspect affect Garrett too and you know that already, I'm sure. You asked for my advice. There's my bucketful. I love you and am hoping you stand your ground and don't do it, but I will love you no matter what you choose, MAS. I'm very glad you've found someone you love and who loves you back, but I don't want that same love to cause you to let yourself and your Jesus down either. Be careful with your heart and your decisions, please.
Not only have I lived in the same state as Mike, but I've also lived 4 blocks away (in non-nyc time that means less than a 10 minute walk). I was actually glad for the seperate space, some of the time. Others I cried the whole walk home.
There was a time when I practically lived with Mike. My cat had just died & I was recovering from heart surgery. I was on his couch for about a week before we went to his parents, then mine, for the holidays. Becuase of the circumstances, we never even thought about crossing the lines we'd drawn in our relationship.
There were times when I wanted to erase the lines all together. But I hadn't drawn those lines by myself and wasn't able to erase by myself what we had jointly decided before Mike even became a Christian. I still remember him reminding me once that he didn't honor our decisions for me.
Why are you afraid to tell you parents? Is it because you're afraid of what they'll think? Or are you resisting the accountability? Just something to think about.
Decisions of the heart are never easy to make. I know your God will love you regardless of the decisions you make because your His child and that is written in stone. I also know that you'll never regret standing your ground for Him, as hard as it may be.
I'm sorry that there are so many challenges right now. Loving someone is never easy b/c we are all so flawed and want to make idols of everything we love. I'm sure you see this "idol-making" with the parents of your students a lot. Although, sometimes I'm like that with our Stella cat. =(
im not at that place so i can't help you out here
no matter what though - IT IS YOUR LIFE
and if your parents get pissed - they will still love you....
my best friend in college got pregnant - his parentes were NOT very open to her... that is until AFTER the baby was born....
they still weren't warm to her....
3 weeks after the baby was born, she decided she was ready to get married - and she put the wedding together in 2 weeks
HIS family has never looked back and they treat her as if she has always been part of the family - they love her unconditionally and they have NEVER brought up the fact that the oldest grandchild's b-day is before the wedding date..
HER PARENTS are still stilted towards both of them... but they love her, are polite to him, and they LOVE their grandchildren
I hope you had fun celebrating Father's Day in a different way this year. =)
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